In my studies on the brain, I was intrigued to read this quote from one of today’s most well-known neuroscientists, V. S. Ramachandran, in his book The Tell-Tale Brain. He writes, “A picture of a nude woman seen behind a shower curtain or wearing diaphanous, skimpy clothes-an image that men would say approvingly, ‘leaves something to the imagination’ can be much more alluring than a pinup of the same nude woman.” Call the first example peek-a-boo porn.
Similarly he writes, “many women will find images of hot and sexy but partially clad men to be more attractive than fully naked men.” (i.e., the Chippendales) He bases this belief on this neuroscience fact: our brains find pleasure in searching for solutions to problems or puzzles. The puzzle to be solved in the case of a partially clothed woman is to ‘fill in the visual blanks’ with our imagination. It adds an extra dimension of appeal. Many well-known artists have even used this principle when drawing images of the partially clothed. In this post I broach a topic about pornography that often we don’t classify as porn.
Much has been written about the dangers of porn. Most pastors today agree about such dangers. And we’re cautioned to never click to porn sites. I totally agree with those cautions. Bt what about peek-a-boo porn?
I wonder if peek-a-boo porn might be just as damaging to a pastor’s thought life and ministry as that which most would agree meets the criteria of porn? And since peek-a-boo porn doesn’t meet the traditional porn definition, I wonder if we pastors might too easily convince ourselves there’s nothing wrong with it.
What Is Peek-A-Boo Porn?
What might qualify as peek-a-boo porn?
- A well-known sport’s magazine swimsuit edition.
- Images to the right of some web pages of beautiful women that scream for us to click the image.
- Some women’s magazines that show skimpily clad women (i.e., those magazines that visually yell at us at the grocery store check-out).
- Commercials from a well-known women’s lingerie company.
- Movies or TV shows that prominently shown scantily clothed women.
I wonder if Jesus had something like peek-a-boo porn in mind when he said these words.
But don’t think you’ve preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. Those leering looks you think nobody notices—they also corrupt. Matt. 5.28 (The MESSAGE)
So if peek-a-book porn can be as destructive as traditional porn, how can we protect ourselves from it?
Here are a few suggestions.
- If your wife subscribes to women’s magazines that feature scantily clothed women, ask her to keep them out of plain site.
- Decide beforehand that you will physically look away when a lingerie commercial on TV pops up or when the camera zooms in on a cheerleader during a pro football game.
- Pre-screen a movie before you go see it. I highly recommend www.screenit.com. It’s a helpful site that gives a detailed analysis of the language, sex, and violence in almost every movie.
- Teach your church about Biblical virtues and the benefits of modesty. Explain how the brain works. I know this could be touchy, but if you are a male pastor, consider involving your wife in that teaching.
- Get the book Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain by Dr. William M. Struthers into the hands of your men.
Do you agree that peek-a-boo porn can be as destructive as the other kind? Or do you think I’m simply being too Puritan? How have you protected yourself from peek-a-boo porn?
This article on peek-a-boo porn originally appeared here, and is used by permission.
