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Real Talk Monday: 10 Things Pastors WISH They Could Say

November 20, 2016 by Chuck Lawless Articles

Maybe Monday is not the best day for this post, but here goes.

I’ve written previously about strange things people have said to me as a pastor or as a consultant. Sometimes it seems people will say just about anything…so, I thought I’d write a post about things I wish I could say aloud at times, but know better. Here are some of them.

1. “Do you ever read the bulletin or listen to the announcements?” It’s amazing what people don’t hear even though you’ve gone overboard to communicate.

2. “Do you even have a mirror?” You know the people who cause you to think this way…

3. “Do you really think you can sing?” I can still remember when I first thought this thought. The music that day really was “special.”

4. “Oh, no, there she is.” That’s the way you feel when that certain bothersome church member comes your way.

5. “Would you please just grow up?” Believers who get stunted in their spiritual growth tend to whine a lot.

6. “I wish you had not come today.” I’m just being honest—some members bring only gloom and negativity with them.

7. “You’re wrong. We let him go because ______________.” I understand why we protect staff and leaders we ask to step down, but sometimes it would be nice to tell the whole truth just to justify our position.

8. “I just don’t want to do this today.” These kinds of Sundays don’t happen often, but they do happen.

9. “He’s not the pastor here anymore.” It seems some pastors who were once criticized become saints after they’re gone…

10. “Why do you keep coming if you’re so unhappy here?” I’ve never fully understand why miserable church people seem to feed off the conflict.

I confess my sinful heart here. On the other hand, I do bite my tongue hard sometimes to keep from sinning more, knowing that words really can be destructive.

How about you—what do you wish you could say, but don’t?

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About Chuck Lawless

Chuck Lawless is professor and senior associate dean of the Billy Graham School of Missions, Evangelism and Church Growth at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. He has served as a pastor for almost twenty years, and is the author of Spiritual Warfare: Biblical Truth for Victory, Discipled Warriors: Healthy Churches Winning Spiritual Warfare, Making Disciples through Mentoring, Serving in Your Church's Prayer Ministry, and Eating the Elephant. Dr. Lawless speaks extensively around the countryYou can read articles from Dr. Chuck Lawless on his personal blog (ChuckLawless.com) ( or connect with him on Twitter and on Facebook.

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