How to Avoid Sexual Temptation at the Office (Yes, Even at Church)

Even in the workplace. I need to judge what my thoughts are and where my eyes are going.

How to Avoid Sexual Temptation at the Office (Yes, Even at Church)

As a married man, I am committed to remaining faithful to my wife. That means I have to constantly evaluate my thoughts.

Even in the workplace. I need to judge what my thoughts are and where my eyes are going.

Over the past couple of years, I’ve seen many of my friends fall to sexual temptation. They allowed themselves to become entangled in affairs.

Their actions caused the end of their marriages. Their families were ripped apart. And their relationships with their children have become strained.

It’s so sad to see people you love have their lives drastically changed because of a decision they’ve made.

These situations are also why I try to guard myself against the temptation to commit adultery.

I hope you’re committed to your marriage and your family as well. If you’re struggling to stay faithful to your spouse, I suggest you try the following actions:

Talk positively about your spouse at the office:

Let’s be honest. There are women (and men) who are prowling for an opening into the lives of married men and women.

For some reason, they see it as a challenge to break up a marriage. And once they see an opening, they’ll pounce.

Because of this, we need to make sure we’re talking positively about our spouse. Don’t give someone the opportunity to move in where they don’t belong.

Take caution in meeting privately with the opposite sex:

This is a widely debated thought. Yet I agree with what many call the Billy Graham rule, or the Modesto Manifesto.

Billy Graham believed it was wise to never meet with a female alone. Whether that was at lunch, in the office or traveling.

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In doing so, he could avoid temptation and the appearance of any unseemly behavior.

Is this a wise thing? I believe so.

We’re flawed creatures. We’re drawn to beautiful things. And we’re easily tempted.

Putting the Billy Graham rule into place can help alleviate some of the scandalous situations other leaders have found themselves in.

Of course, you’ve got to evaluate how you want to implement this strategy in your leadership.

Are there exceptions to the Billy Graham rule? Are there times when it is okay to meet with the opposite sex? What, how and why?

You decide and put those boundaries into place.

Watch your flirtatious talk (and actions):

I’ve seen a lot of flirtatious talk tossed around the office, on the shop floor and even on the sales floor. It’s easy to let a few flowery words flit from your mouth.

But being flirtatious can open up a can of worms.

Your flirty words and actions will garner the attention of the person you’re directing them toward.

Once you’ve said a provocative word or two, they become easier to say the next time. Then the next. Until you’re face to face with the choice to commit adultery.

Be aware of the words you’re speaking. There’s power in those words.

I don’t want to scare you with this post. I want to bring attention to the danger of sexual temptation.

Going down that road is dangerous. To you. To your family. And even to your career.

Put up safe guards to prevent you from walking into the death trap that is adultery.

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Question: How are you guarding yourself against sexual temptation in the workplace? Share your tips in the comments so we can help each other.

This article originally appeared here.

Joseph Lalonde
Joseph Lalonde is passionate to see young people serving God and becoming the leader God has created them to be. He served as a youth leader for 15 years and is on a new journey now. You can find him encouraging young leaders here and on Twitter.
  • Frankwell Mwila

    This article is timely and is just what every man and woman out there needs to read. Whether married or not. The tips given are quite helpful. Additionally, developing an intimate relationship and with God through his Word is helpful as the scripture says, ‘Thy word have I hidden in my heart that I might not seen against you’. The Billy Graham rule must be followed 100%.

  • Constante Galope

    Being in the company of the opposite sex alone and the smell of perfume must send the warning bells to sound the alarm.
    Back off asap.