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4 Lessons I Learned From My First Church

June 11, 2024 by James Emery White Articles, Leadership

Several years ago, Robert Fulghum wrote a bestselling book with an intriguing title: All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. It talked about playing fair, putting things back where you found them… flushing. It was a fun book. Reflecting on that title, it made me think of my own leadership and role as a pastor. And how I could write a book titled: All I Really Need to Know I Learned in My First Church.

My first church was a county-seat Baptist congregation in a small town near the school where I went to seminary. It was a big church by student standards, 300 or so in attendance, and it had a staff that consisted of a part-time youth minister, a part-time worship leader, a couple of administrative assistants and a groundskeeper.

The church did not, however, have a good history with pastors. 

If I recall correctly, I was going to be at least their fourth pastor in less than a decade. The pastor before me had an emotional breakdown in the pulpit. They gave him a 90-day medical sabbatical. At the end of his break, he announced he had accepted a position at a new church in Florida.

It seems he used his sabbatical well.

The pastor before him was told by a deacon – who visited the doorstep of the parsonage one night to deliver the news – that if he didn’t leave, he would make it so hard on him he’d have to.

So there I was, the young seminary kid. 

And I do mean young. 

“Senior” pastor? 

Hardly. 

I was 25 years old when I delivered my first message to that church as its leader, finding myself leading a church that left a trail of pastors’ bodies in its wake.

I served that church for just over three years. I carry many a scar from that time to this day. Yet it taught me some of the most important lessons I’ve ever learned for ministry—kindergarten kind of lessons.

4 Lessons I Learned From My First Church

1. Stand up to bullies.

Almost every playground has a bully. And there’s only one way to stop a bully: Stand up to them.

There was a certain man in the church who had terrorized pastors for years. He was big, burly and intimidating. He was also a “parking lot” manipulator—talking to people before and after services, maneuvering them to his side of things. And if there wasn’t a “side” in play, he simply sowed seeds of dissension, division and discontent. He was a master at taking control of deacon and business meetings, bringing “blindsiding” to an art form. 

No one had ever confronted him about his behavior before.

I was young and stupid enough to be the first.

It worked.

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About James Emery White

James Emery White is the founding and senior pastor of Mecklenburg Community Church in Charlotte, NC, and the ranked adjunctive professor of theology and culture at Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, where he also served as their fourth president. His book, The Rise of the Nones: Understanding and Reaching the Religiously Unaffiliated, is available on Amazon. To enjoy a free subscription to the Church and Culture blog, visit ChurchAndCulture.org, where you can view past blogs in our archive and read the latest church and culture news from around the world. Follow Dr. White on Twitter @JamesEmeryWhite.

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