A few weeks ago, I was having lunch with a friend who was having some problems in his marriage. He began to walk me through their issues, and they weren’t unique or different or unsolvable. They were real and they were serious, but not exclusive to their relationship.
At one point in our conversation, I said to my friend, “What you need to do is you need to fight for your marriage. You are more willing to fight for your music career than your marriage.” He said, “It’s easier to fight with her than it is to fight for her.”
There is a relationship in your life right now that you need to fight for. Great relationships don’t just happen; they are prioritized. If you want any relationship to be great, you have to fight for it. What I have noticed about life is that it is easier to fight for other things, which matter so much less:
- Fight for your career
- Fight for a bigger house or nicer car
- Fight for peoples’ approval
- Fight for your status
- Fight for a business deal
We get so consumed with life, we spend the best hours of our day fighting for things that in the end don’t matter. Somewhere along the way, the people that mean the most to us get the least amount of fight from us. We fight with them, but we stop fighting for them.
Your son needs you to fight for him. Your best friend needs you to fight for her. Your wife needs you to fight for her. Your boyfriend needs you to fight for him. Your mom needs you to fight for her. Your husband needs to know you’re fighting for him.
If you want a great friendship, you have to fight for it. If you want an intimate marriage, you have to fight for it. If you want to know your son or your daughter and be known by them, you have to fight for it. If you want to have a close relationship with your sister like you used to have, you have to fight for it. If you want to rebuild your relationship with your dad, it won’t just “happen”; you have to fight for it.
The question today is: Are you willing to fight for it?