6. Criticize others.
So many people try to build themselves up by tearing other people down. Churches pick a neighboring church to badmouth. Pastors badmouth other leaders. Friends badmouth former friends.
Just stop it. Build your life on what you’re for, not what you’re against. Especially when it comes to people.
7. Ignore the people who don’t have enough power or influence to help you.
One of the tests of how well you’re using the power entrusted to you is how well you’re helping the people who aren’t able to help you get ahead. If you’re a social climber—only pursuing people who are equal to or higher than you in status—good luck. Your followers see the social climbing you’re doing.
Truly great leaders help those who don’t have the ability to help them back. Strangely, that ultimately gives them even more influence, not to mention reflecting the heart of their Father.
Not sure how you’re doing? Ask someone who has no power to get you ahead. They’ll tell you. Especially if the shoe marks on their forehead still hurt.
8. Be more interested in yourself than other people.
True, there’s something in all of us that wants to make sure we get heard, but if you really want to steward influence well, be more interested in others than you are in yourself.
Ask questions. Remember details. Express an interest.
