Porn Is Ruining People’s Lives: 12 Bare Facts About Why We Still Pursue It

These 12 things may predispose you to view porn.

As I’ve researched the issues caused by porn, I am shocked not just at its moral consequences, but at its social costs, damage to marriages and what it does to our brains. In my research I learned that these 12 personal issues may increase the temptation to watch porn.

These issues may tempt you to view porn (adapted from Wired for Intimacy: How pornography hijacks the male brain by William Struthers, Kindle E-book loc. 575):

1. The allure of the forbidden: curiosity about a woman’s naked body.

2. Fantasy: dissatisfaction with the current world and a desire to participate in another.

3. The pleasure of surrender: giving in to sexual release through images on a screen.

4. Desire to see women in ecstasy.

5. The female body becoming an altar at which a man worships.

6. Controlling personality: a desire to manipulate the environment to gain a sense of security.

7. Unhealthy introversion: a loner type who isolates himself from social interaction with others.

8. High anxiety: easily stressed from family, work, or expectations others place on him.

9. Narcissism: a need to be admired by others around him; needs lots of admiration. See my blog on the narcissistic leader here.

10. Low self-esteem: sense of inadequacy around other men or women; needs lots of affirmation.

11. Depression.

12. Distractability: difficulty keeping focused or controlling impulses; constantly wanting to move to something more interesting.

If some of these issues are often true of you, find a wise accountability partner to help you conquer porn and/or avoid its lure. If you do have a problem with it, you can’t solve it by going solo. I also recommend this excellent site for further help.

Recommended On ChurchPlants:  I Can Stream Church: Do I Have to Attend?

As Christians, we must remember this promise from God’s Word.

By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence. (2 Pet 1.3, NLT)

Charles Stone
Dr. Charles Stone is the founder of StoneWell Ministries, a pastor coaching and church consulting ministry. He is the author of three books, inlcuding his latest: People Pleasing Pastors: Avoiding the Pitfalls of Approval Motivated Leadership (IVP).
  • Kevin Brown

    Aloha Dr. Stone

    The bible makes it clear that righteousness exalts a nation but sin is a reproach to every people. Porography is one of many reproaches that impact the lives of all that it touches. Those that it symbolizes to those it seduces. It is importhat to note that pornography is not the problem, only a symtom to the greater problem of sin that rest in this carnal flesh. The pursuit of this activity is not normal but carnal. It seems to satisfy the most base of carnal desires only to leave one empty and unsatisfied. The depravity of sin corrupts everything it touches and leads to death.