5. Your Joy and Laughter.
This is a surprising development. You might have expected that becoming like Jesus would mean growing sterner, graver, more serious. And while part of you has deepened in that way, your spirit has sprouted wings. You are now able to soar higher–to laugh at trouble, to find joy in the simplest of pleasures, to rejoice in Christ when nothing is going your way.
Sometimes you find yourself laughing when nothing provokes it.
Joy is like that.
You have put gladness in my heart, more than when their grain and new wine increased (Psalm 4:7). In thy presence is fullness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures forevermore (Psalm 16:11).
4. A New Generosity.
You haven’t given away all your money, nothing like that. But how you look at money is changing. It has become “a means to an end,” and not the goal of anything. Money is a tool to be used to bless people for Christ’s sake.
Some say one mark of becoming more Christlike is to enjoy saving money more than spending it. But we can go that one better: to enjoy putting money to work in the service of God and people is best of all.
When Deacon Lawrence Bryant came to know Christ at the age of 43, his priorities were turned on their head. Instead of amassing wealth, he delighted in blessing others with what God had given him. His wife Helen remarked to her mother one day, “If you come home and find a moving van backed up to the door, Lawrence has given away the house.”
Deacon John Dowdle gave a young preacher a large check to assist him in his seminary education. Later he told me, “That same day I made three times that much in a little business transaction.” He was quiet for a minute, then said, “That happens so much it almost frightens me.”
He was discovering he could not outgive God.
But it’s fun to try.
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3. Joy in Anonymous Acts.
They said of Jesus that He “went about doing good” (Acts 10:38). That’s the idea: leaving a trail of blessed people in your wake.
Not all our giving and working should be anonymous, of course. We are bearing a witness for our Lord through our good deeds, and thus we want people to know their Source and to be directed toward Him as a result. However–and this is the point–we get just as big a delight out of blessing someone without him knowing where it came from.
I’ve had this done for me, and have done it for others. Someone called from a men’s clothing store. “Pastor, you are being invited to come down and buy a suit for yourself. No questions asked, anything in the store.” What fun that was, particularly in the days when I needed a new suit and money was scarce. But when money was more plentiful, I have passed that blessing along to others. Best of all was doing this for some preacher who was serving a small congregation and being poorly paid. He never knew the source, and that was more pleasurable to me than if he had known.
Most of our prayer for people should be anonymous. If I feel that I need to keep reminding people “I’m praying for you,” it might indicate a lack of faith in my prayer and more confidence in the power of telling them that I’m praying for them.
Much of our praying and giving should be in secret. (See Matthew 6:3-4.)
2. More Silence in Your Prayer Time.
Good friends learn to enjoy silence with each other, and not feeling the need to fill the vacuum with chatter. So with prayer.
Someone asked Mother Teresa, “You pray hours a day. What do you talk about all that time?” She said, “Mostly, I just listen.” That was puzzling to the questioner. “You listen to God? What does He say?” She answered, “Mostly He just listens too.”
I love that little story. I’m not exactly sure what it means, but there is something about it that feels right.
I confess to being troubled when I hear a brother–usually a preacher–attacking heaven with a barrage of noisy words in his prayer. He comes on like a Gatling gun, hardly pausing for breath, as though Heaven is charging him so much per minute and he wants to get in all he can before he runs out of coins.
What’s the rush, I wonder.
When counseling others on how to pray in private, I often suggest three activities: read the Scripture, then talk to the Lord a while, and then sit quietly. After a bit, read some more of the Word, talk to the Lord again, and then sit in silence for a while. Repeat for as long as you are able. That’s part of becoming more Christlike.
1. Unceasing Prayer.
When asked how long you pray each day, you have no idea. You never stop. Pray without ceasing (I Thessalonians 5:17).
I’m amused by polls that reveal the average Christian prays something like 45 seconds a day. “How do they know?” I wonder.
At the end of a day, would you know how many times you had spoken to a faithful friend who had been at your side all day long? Probably not.
Would you know the total of all the minutes of those conversations? Hardly.
As a third-grader walking up that West Virginia mountaintop to school each morning, I would often talk to the Lord about various subjects. However, in my childlike understanding, I would not say “amen” at the conclusion of the prayer. To do so seemed the equivalent of hanging up the phone, and the last thing I wanted to do was to cut the Lord off. I wanted Him involved in all I was doing all day long.
The Lord wants His children to grow spiritually, to become more and more like Christ. Theologians refer to this as sanctification. Paul expressed it like this: But we all…are being transformed into the same image (of Christ) from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of God (II Corinthians 3:18).
I asked a friend whom I know to be far godlier than I for her list of markers, how she knows she is more like Christ this year than last. Interestingly, my list and hers are as different as we are. And both lists are on the mark.
You will have your own list of indicators of spiritual growth in Christ.
Perhaps, though, the best indicator of all that we are growing in Christ is this: Someone brags on your godly character and you think, “Who? Me? You’ve got to be kidding!”
Becoming more Christlike seems to be a lot like humility: Those who have it most are least aware of it, but only see how much further they have to go.
From what I know of the subject of becoming more Christlike, the process of sanctification is not finished until we stand before the Savior Himself. As John said, We shall be like Him for we shall see Him as He is (I John 3:2). And we shall be changed (I Corinthians 15:51).
The completion of sanctification goes by the name of glorification–we are changed into His likeness completely–and then something wonderful happens: arriving in Heaven, we are a perfect fit.
