Are you a church planter or pirate? First of all, kudos to you for even letting me ask you that question. I assume that your heart is to plant a church without hurting other local churches. There are some inevitable mistakes every church planter will make, but some church planting mis-steps have further reaching implications. I have planted a church as well as helped others plant churches. I hope to encourage well intentioned planters like you to learn from both my touchdowns and turnovers.
Here are three questions to ask yourself to help discern whether you are being a church planter or a pirate.
Planter or Pirate?
1. Am I Recruiting Church Members Privately?
You can assume that you will be seen as a pirate instead of a planter if you are meeting with prospective church members without their pastor’s knowledge. Half-heartedly telling members from other churches that you do not want them to leave their church to help you plant is manipulative. Ask the Lord to make clear your motives.
The people who leave their church to help you plant your church should be called by God, not recruited by you.
Be cautious about labeling members from other church families as “unchurched” just because they have been thinking about leaving their church. It is not unusual for members to consider leaving their church at some time or another, for one reason or another. Pirates bait moderately committed members away from their churches whether they intend to or not.
2. Am I Avoiding Other Pastors?
A common mistake church planters make is avoiding other pastors in the area. Some of those pastors will have members who will visit and join your church–even if you have discouraged them. Avoidance will only delay the awkwardness that inevitably comes with sheep-swapping or stealing.
You can practice “double-honor” with other pastors by initiating coffee or lunch weeks or month before you launch. Our churches and communities benefit greatly from healthy friendships among pastors.