Don’t treat your bad reactions as defeat, though.
Apologize.
Get through it.
Treat it as an opportunity to grow.
Those crisis points will show you what God wants to work on next.
God’s motivation, of course, is good. He wants to move us from this to this.
Your last crisis is your clue to a better future—if you leverage it.
Avoid the Critical Mistake Too Many Leaders Make
So if you really want to grow as a person and as a leader, what do you do when you’ve seen your character in all of its ugliness?
I’ll tell you what you’ll be tempted to do.
Ignore it.
You will live through the crisis and simply move on.
That’s what most people do. And that’s why most people never really grow.
They just keep making the same mistake over and over again.
Sure, you’re not spiteful now. But that’s because there’s no crisis now. You were spiteful yesterday. And you will be spiteful as soon as the next crisis hits, unless you drill down.
Now, you will resist drilling down.
You will think, “I got through this. The crisis is over. I’m just going to ignore it.”
HUGE mistake.
It’s a recipe for perpetual emotional immaturity. It’s a strategy perfectly designed to stunt your growth.
So have the courage, when things are ‘normal’ again, to do the soul work.
